We Dress How We Feel

What I love the most about fashion is that a single article of clothing or an accessory has the power to be transformative. A new pair of shoes can give you the confidence to kick some butt, the right shade of eyeshadow can capture someone's glance, a statement ring packs the power of a knock out punch, and that little black dress has just been patiently waiting to make an appearance and grab his attention.

Clothing triggers an emotional response. That is a fact. Most times we dress how we feel or we dress how we want to feel. Going to an interview for your dream job? You'll probably want to wear an outfit that will make you feel like you are exuding confidence and skill. You know you'll plan your 10 year high school reunion outfit weeks in advance because you want to look youthful and successful. I think that this is what men don't get about women - we dress how we feel. "Honey! Tomorrow I am going to feel new! So, I had to get these pumps to just be prepared."

Many of the fashion bloggers in the industry are participating in Kendi Everyday's 30 for 30 Remix Challenge - and boy is this a challenge! 30 articles of clothing - 30 outfits - 30 days - no outfit repeats and no shopping. The very point of this all is to teach yourself that you don't always need something new to feel great. 

I wasn't totally sure what I was getting myself into when I started fashion blogging. I have a passion for fashion & for making my clients look and feel their best. At first, I intended my blog to be focused totally on giving fashion tips & the inside scoop on what to wear and what not to wear. As I scoured the expansive world of fashion blogging, I realized that the best way to give tips on what to wear was to actually show what I was wearing. So, I started featuring myself! The 30 for 30 Remix Challenge has totally aided me in my mission. I think the best thing about this challenge is that it forces me to appreciate my current wardrobe for what it is. Remixing 30 items stretches my creativity in putting together stellar outfits everyday instead of "giving in" and running to the store for that perfect top. I've found, through this challenge, that the perfect top is already in my closet! It's all a matter of inserting that feeling that you want to exude into what you already have. 

This past week I have felt tired. And I've realized a difference in my appearance. I am dressing tired because I feel tired. I can tell that I am consciously and subconsciously doing this. I put on less mascara in the morning because I'm tired. I have put the 30 for 30 to rest - not because it's too much of a challenge to put the outfits together - but because at the end of the day, I'm too tired to take a photo, too tired to crop & edit a photo, and too tired to write up a post...etc, etc. I've been searching for the most comfortable pants & tops to wear. I've been stuck in black for a few days and if I could wear the same outfit every day, I would. It's time to take a break.

How do you feel this time of year?

Fashionably Yours,

Dear Gina, Fashion Assistance Needed!

A friend of mine from college wrote to me in dire need of some fashion advice. She's a real estate agent with a very opinionated client...Take a look!

"Help, I work for a real estate agent and I will be showing a house for her on Sunday. I need a stunning outfit that would adequately represent Mr. Fashion (the homeowner), his home, and my boss! I have no idea when it comes to fashion and my options are literally coming from my Grandmother's closet. 

The owner earned the name Mr. Fashion when I was wearing, in my opinion, a very cute tailored silk blouse that tied in the front with a little french knot. He flicked my little tie, put up his nose and said "I can always tell a fake when I see it. I was in the business. I like that your (insert boss's name here) invests in what she's wearing. A lot of people don't appreciate that she's willing to spend so much on clothes, but I do and they know that she always looks fantastic." Point taken...but one really big problem, I'm poor, like, stay at home Mom, my husband is a teacher and we live in a very expensive area, poor.

SO - here are my options: 

I know that he has an affinity for St. John suits. I happen to have one navy blue knit two piece St. John suit compliments my very fashionable Grandmother who was once a model. It's tasteful and not outdated. 

Second, a women's black double breasted Alan Austin suit coat imported from Italy. The best thing I have to wear with it is a white Liz Taylor blouse and some black slacks ala Target. I also have black skirts but I don't know if that would look nice. I mean, would it look cheap to put Target pants with a nice coat like that? What do I do? 

Third, another Alan Austin suit set in red imported from France. The suit comes with a pencil skirt that goes to the knees. My reluctance here is that it's red which, for business reasons isn't always considered acceptable. I want to look professional but I don't want to stick out like a sore thumb either. 

What do you think? Can you help me???"

Here's what I responded:

We will get you through this situation, I can guarantee it. How intimidating this Mr. Fashion is! I must say that I wholeheartedly disagree with his philosophy...you don't have to always only wear haute couture designer brands in order to be successful or considered fashionable. I definitely work from the viewpoint that anyone can look fashionable and tailored on any budget - but with that said, he does prove another point - that appearance does matter in your profession.

You are very lucky that you have your grandmother's closet to sift through. If you did not have access to her closet, I would suggest that you go to consignment shops in a more upscale neighborhood in your area. Certain vintage shops like that have designer brands at a deeply discounted price. It would be a good investment and you'd see a return for sure.

Here's what I think your wardrobe as a real estate agent should look like. Tailored & structured pieces with a little visual interest. And definitely more neutral shades, with a pop of color in your accessories.

 You are definitely right in staying away from the red suit set. It doesn't work in this situation in showing the house. You want your clients to see the house, not you - but you do want to compliment the house and look sophisticated enough to prove that you are knowledgeable to sell this baby. I really love the idea of the pencil skirt. It is very possible that it might work as a solitary piece with a structured white collared shirt, black heels, and pearls. He can't get on his high horse about a collared white shirt - no designer can claim that one!

                                                 Fashionably Yours,